Hi ..
This an interesting experience shared by one of my friend. He is working as manager in a well reputed automotive industry with good salary. Few months back he got married. As usual the marriage function was grand and his early marriage life was beautiful.
As days went there were few arguments between them. They were unable to understand why these arguments arise and don't know to whom they can share or discuss. In night they used to have serious discussions which led to sleepless night. Even for small things they started to expect apology from the other person.
When he shared this to me, I came to know that there is no wrong from their point of view but they were missing a key point to understand. What the problem was they never felt the situation from the opposite persons point of view such as: why do she/he behave like this? what is the reason behind her/his tension? What happened in their office? or some x problems...
I advised my friend to hold silence when his wife argues or quarrels, let her through out whatever she has in her mind. Dont try to solve her issues and she never needed that from you. All she want from you is a caring heart for her and listen to her problems which makes her feel better. At the same time i also advised him to find a right time to convey his expectations and views to his wife on a good mood so that she can understand you. Both have to share valuable time with each other and try to forgive the mistakes. No man in this world is perfect, everybody tends to make mistake and learn something from that.
After a month my friends life had a positive change and now both live happily.
When he shared this to me, I came to know that there is no wrong from their point of view but they were missing a key point to understand. What the problem was they never felt the situation from the opposite persons point of view such as: why do she/he behave like this? what is the reason behind her/his tension? What happened in their office? or some x problems...
I advised my friend to hold silence when his wife argues or quarrels, let her through out whatever she has in her mind. Dont try to solve her issues and she never needed that from you. All she want from you is a caring heart for her and listen to her problems which makes her feel better. At the same time i also advised him to find a right time to convey his expectations and views to his wife on a good mood so that she can understand you. Both have to share valuable time with each other and try to forgive the mistakes. No man in this world is perfect, everybody tends to make mistake and learn something from that.
After a month my friends life had a positive change and now both live happily.
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